Collaborative Law

There is only one experience on earth that is reliably more painful than a divorce. Second to the death of a child, the death of your dreams can be the most difficult experience of your life.

If reaching the point of decision to terminate your marriage has taken an emotional toll, but you still have your dignity and self respect, if your values dictate that you remain friends or preserve the ability to work together for the sake of the children, there is a developing area of law you should know about. It is called collaborative law.

Collaborative law is a process designed to do no further violence to your dignity, self esteem, privacy and one of the most important relationships in your life - the relationship between your children and their other parent.

Without any doubt, children suffer the most in a divorce. It isn't just their dreams that die. Life as they have known it is over, finished, dead. You may know that everything is going to be all right, but as dysfunctional as your marriage may have been, it may be all your children have ever known. They will feel responsible. They will feel less than. Their self esteem will always be impacted.

Parents of children cannot engage in a protracted, bitter fight without impacting the children. Even the children of very functional adults will be impacted.

Through the collaborative law process, the parties, their lawyers, and neutral professionals work together, collaboratively, to make the decisions that reflect the values of the parties. By working together, clients are able to maintain control of their case. No lawyer, judge, or associate judge will dictate or force any decision upon a party for as long as the case remains in the collaborative process. You maintain your privacy, your dignity and control of your destiny.

Children and dignity aside, litigation is always expensive. The more fear filled or vitriolic the litigation, the more it consumes your money. The more it consumes your money, the more fearful and angry you become. Litigation is a vicious cycle that tends to continue even after the divorce is over. Working together is also a cycle that tends to continue after the divorce is over.

If you abhor the thought of a freight train of litigation careening out of control right through the middle of your assets, if you shudder at the thought of people that may not share or understand your values impacting your destiny and that of your children, you may want to consider collaborative law as an alternative to litigation. Collaborative law helps rebuild respect for yourself and for others. It clarifies your core values and creatively seeks resolutions that reflect those values. It seeks to preserve and strengthen each parents relationship with the children.

Collaborative law isn't for everyone; but it may be for you. To know more about the benefits of collaborative law, ask an attorney that is experienced in the process. Many attorneys with decades of litigation experience, tired of being instruments of destruction, are embracing collaborative law. They have reached the point in life where they choose to be implements of construction, preserving what is, or building what has never been.

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